Every single day, you and I live a life that is surrounded by anger, envy, hate and frustration all because we can not control our mind.
There are times when all you can see is negativity, it’s as if it has been lying in wait to pounce on you just when you least expect it.
One moment you are happy and content with your life, but all it takes to disrupt that peace is for someone to come and criticize you.
That does it. Now your whole day is ruined. You just won’t be able to stop thinking about that incident for the entire day.
You need to find the real cause of all this anxiety, sadness and fears is actually your mind’s creation.
Which mind do you ask?
The emotional one.
Yes, your emotional mind is the one responsible for making your life either heavenly or a living hell. The choice is yours.
Keep reading this article to find the answer and unlock the power of your emotional mind.
Emotional Intelligence is your ability to become aware of your own emotions, controlling them and changing the negative outcomes into positive ones.
It also includes how to empathize with others and understand their emotions as well.
The common 4 elements of emotional intelligence are given below:
- Social awareness
- Relationship building
- You can easily adapt to the change happening in your career and life.
- Challenges do not bother you anymore as you know how to deal with them.
- You understand people’s fears, anxieties and choices they make against you so you can empathize with them.
- You become more confident and committed at your workplace.
- You can quickly make healthy relationships with your colleagues and clients.
- As you learn to manage your first response towards anything you save yourself.
Let’s dig deeper into each element of Emotional Intelligence and how you can use it in your life.
What does it mean?
Am I trying to say that you have no control over your mind?
It is about identifying your responses towards various situations you face daily and regulating them by using mindfulness.
For example: Consider that you are stuck in traffic.
There is nothing you can do about it but in situations like these, it’s hard to keep control on the anxiety you feel and the environment in situations like these affects your behavior as well as your peace of mind.
Instead of continuously blowing horns and cursing at people, you can sit back and relax. Can’t you? Is it that difficult?
So, the next time when your boss does not appreciate your efforts or you face a rejection that you can’t deal with why don’t you can take a break for a moment rather than exploding or letting it stress you.
And you can ask yourself. Is it something you should lose your temper over? Is it something that is worth your peace of mind?
It could only make the situation worse.
Have you ever thought about these things before?
Never, then think about it for your own happiness.
Once you are able to control your emotions and stop them from turning violent or negative, you move forward toward the next step of emotional intelligence.
Once you get the taste of emotional intelligence and what it has to offer you, you won’t want to go back to being an emotional mess. You’ll have many questions.
How can you become more active by practicing the techniques of emotional intelligence?
What is the best possible action you can choose for the best possible outcome?
Can it help you with the confusion you have while making the important decisions of your life?
You know, your life is influenced by many people.
Your parents, your teachers, your friends and even the faces that you see around daily but don’t have a name for.
Most of the times, it’s your parents, teachers or your friends that take decisions for you.
That’s where conflicts emerge. As to have a peaceful life, a life full of joy and happiness, your emotions need to connect with your desires and dreams.
So when self-awareness takes place in your mind you start realizing your emotional needs and solving your problems yourself.
You become brave enough to deal with your struggles on your own as you control your fears.
And then it’s just you taking control of your life and constructing it into your own heaven.
Do you know why some people struggle a lot in their social lives while the other half don’t have the same problem?
Because sometimes they are not able to understand other people’s emotions and therefore they limit themselves to only the people they already know or they stay alone.
Let’s take a common scenario to understand how it works.
Your business or work depends on the trust people have for you.
Trust is built by listening to people’s problems and stories and then empathizing with them.
But what seals the deal is you being genuinely interested in the people or what they are trying to share with you. It will help you connect with them.
Jason Bridges asks his Ted Talk’s audience to practice emotional intelligence in a simple way.
He suggests us to go out and make five people smile especially when they are not smiling at all.
What an empowering idea!
I applied this technique with cab drivers in my city. You will not believe it, but for the very first time I was able to connect with strangers so easily and all I had to do was smile at them and make them smile in turn.
This made me realize the power of emotional intelligence in our social lives.
Try it today in your life, the changes in your social life will leave you delighted and surprised at the same time.
Conflicts and disagreements are part of our lives.
To resolve them you need to communicate with people.
That’s only possible when you see the situation as your opponent is perceiving.
We have all had different experiences, learnings and we all lead different lifestyles.
That is why we have different views, interests, and solutions as well.
It is true that you need to take a stand for yourself but just pause for a minute and put yourself in his/her shoes. In shoes of the person that you have a disagreement or conflict with.
This is what makes you a good leader, partner, employee, friend and above all a nice human being.
I will leave you here with a great thought.
“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.”
― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart
And let emotional intelligence help you do the same.
If you feel this article is worth sharing then use your emotional intelligence from this very moment and share it with your friends and family.